Donir_Living

Living together

There are many advantages and disadvantages in living together. Sometimes these kinds of relationships "living together before marriage" end up with success and sometimes they are unsuccessful. Some of the advantages of living together before marriage are such as getting to know your partner, learning about one's abilities if he/she can satisfy your expectations and more. Also, there are some disadvantages in living together before marriage and they are such as religious and family values, parenting problems and more. I think there are more advantages then disadvantages in living together before marriage, because sometimes disadvantages in this kind of relationship are avoidable.One of the advantages of living together before marriage is getting to know a person that you might marry with. It is important for a person to know almost everything about the other person that he/she is going to get marry with. However, it can't be accomplish without living together for a while before getting married. People need to know how a person is handling his/her life from all aspects such as behavior, mental, financial and others before a person decides to get married with. This can not be completed in a few days, therefore, it is important to live together for a while before deciding weather to get married or now. Also, learning about a person's abilities to satisfy your expectations is something important to know before getting married Different people have different expectations that could be satisfied by different people. They are such as some husbands expect their wives to dress in certain ways or the vice versa, or some wives expect their husbands to work while the wives want to take care of the kids. In order to learn if one is able to fulfill other's expectations, once again they need to live together before getting married.On the other hand there are disadvantages in living together before marriage. In the past Living together before marriage was considered taboo and in most religions living together before marriage is considered a sin. Lately many couples started living together before marriage. Sometimes when these couples live together before marriage, they are violating their religious and family values and in some religions and cultures there are punishments for this act. These issue sometimes causes problems between unmarried couples and their relationships fall apart. However, sometimes these issues are avoidable by getting family approval and forbidding things that are prohibited between an unmarried couple in some religions and cultures. Another disadvantage of living together before marriage is parenting problems. Sometimes unmarried couples are likely to have unwanted pregnancy or children, and if their relationship don't work well their child would become a victim between child's parents' unsuccessful relationship. There is a lot of dispute between some unmarried couples over who should take care of the child and similar things. However, this could be avoided if unmarried couples follow their responsibilities carefully and use the appropriate means to prevent having a child if they don't want one. With all the advantages and disadvantages of living together before marriage, it sometimes confuses people whether to chose to live together before getting married to someone or to get to know him/her in some other way. However, the disadvantages in living together before marriage are sometimes avoidable and living together before marriage is a good way to find the right person for your self to marry with. Finally, I think people should be serious and live carefully if they do decide to live together before marriage.